Choosing Death

“I am not going to murder my wife”

Brad

Justina Kehinde as Jodie. (Photo: Mark Douet)

The first scene is an ambiguous conversation between Jodie (Justina Kehinde) and Brad (Archie Backhouse) in anticipation of a visitor.  Both are nervous.  Jodie has prepared some prawns and sausages as snacks.  The audience are trying to guess what it is that they want the visitor to do and for a moment we think it might be to propose some kind of sexual threesome. 

It is a very bleak desert set by Mona Camille for this bleak play by Neil LaBute about choices when facing Stage 4 brain cancer.  Jodie has been married to Brad for at least ten years and they have no children.  Jodie has been going through chemotherapy and radiotherapy treatments which resulted in a remission for the cancer but now it has come back again.  She cannot face any more of these painful treatments and now wants to end her life. 

Morgan Watkins as Tate (Photo: Mark Douet)

Her husband Brad clings to the hope that she may be given longer to live and refuses to help her bring about her own death or to assist her dying.  Jodie and Brad live in one of the American States where assisted suicide, as it is known there, is not legal and to assist would result in criminal prosecution.  Oregon has led the way in legalising medical assisted dying. 

The legislation to allow this in the UK is going through parliament but is still fraught with who can assist pushing the responsibility on to doctors who are not entirely happy with this responsibility and legal implications.  After all, central to their Hippocratic oath is “Do no harm”. 

From high school Jodie remembers an older boy whose brother was seriously ill.  The brother died in his hospital bed in the presence of his older brother, Tate (Morgan Watkins).  At school Tate was taunted with being called, “Tate Miller, Brother Killer”.  Tate did not fit in at school and was in a lower class than his age.  However he remembered Jodie because she tried to help him with Math.  Jodie has asked Brad to contact Tate and he is their expected visitor.

Archie Backhouse as Brad. (Photo: Mark Douet)

The meeting is tense.  Tate doesn’t eat non vegetarian snacks and they don’t have a drink he would like.  This situation of course extends the awkwardness of their conversation, until Jodie says, “We want you to kill me?”  “Why can’t Brad do it?” replies Tate.  Jodie says that she has tried herself, to take an overdose, to jump from a high building but couldn’t go through with it. Brad won’t break the law but does offer to relocate to Oregon which would mean a huge upheaval.

Scene Two is between Jodie and Tate set in the desert.  Scene Three has a hugely angry Tate berating Brad for being in contact.  Lisa Spirling has directed this play.  I was waiting for Neil LaBute’s usual sting in the tail and found the tragedy hit home.  Coming out of the auditorium there was a woman saying, “Oh I really enjoyed that!”  Those are not the words I would use to describe this beautifully written, well acted, finely directed and deeply pertinent play about human existence. 

Morgan Watkins as Tate and Archie Backhouse as Brad (Photo: Mark Douet)

Production Notes

How To Fight Loneliness

Written by NeilLaBute

Directed by Lisa Spirling

Cast

Starring:

Archie Backhouse

Morgan Watkins

Justina Kehinde

Creatives

Director: Lisa Spirling

Designer: Mona Camille

Lighting Designer:  Chuma Emembolu

Fight Director: Robbie Taylor Hunt

Sound Director:  Roy Botha

Information

Running Time: Two hours 20 minutes including an interval

Booking to 22nd May 2025

Theatre: 

Park 200

Clifton Terrace
 
 
Finsbury Park
                                                                            
 

London N4 3JP

Tube: Finsbury Park

 
Website: parktheatre.co.uk
 
 
Phone020 7870 6876
 
 

Reviewed by Lizzie Loveridge

at the Park Theatre 

on 22nd April 2025