Life and Death Decisions

“I feel like a death camp.”

HER

Rosie Sheehy as Her and Robert Aramayo as Him (Photo: Johan Persson)

The title Guess How Much I Love You? is that of a well loved children’s book by Sam McBratney given in a new parents’ bundle from the maternity hospital.  The book is about a father and son hare expressing love for each other.  Luke Norris’s play opens with a couple, only referred to as HER (Rosie Sheehy) and HIM (Robery Aramayo) waiting in a hospital scanning room for the Ultrasound Technologist to return.  She left midway in their 20 week scan.  This is their first baby.

While she is away they play a game, lightly argue showing healthy banter with SHE standing up for herself against HIM.  As time goes on they start to speculate on where the health professional has gone and why she is so long away.  They discuss names for the baby and find reasons to disagree.  Between scenes there is darkness and discordant music. 

The news brought back is devastating for them.  The baby has a profound disability with likely care being needed 24/7, a short life expectation and with no prospect of living an independent life.  They are asked to make a decision on whether to progress with the pregnancy or to terminate it now. HE has been brought up a Catholic in Northern Ireland, SHE is from Wales. 

What they reflect on is how they have a choice, whereas years ago, no decision would have had to have been made until the baby was born.  It is the pain of the responsibility for this decision that hurts and those emotions are very close to the surface in Rosie Sheehy’s alarming and devastating performance, which had me close to tears.  Robert Aramayo is similarly showing acting depth and realism as he tries to support his partner.

Rosie Sheehy as Her and Robert Aramayo as Him (Photo: Johan Persson)

When the news gets worse, HER reaction is anger which she lets rip upon HIM who is closest to HER and says terrible things to HIM which are apologised for immediately and for which HE doesn’t bear a grudge. The ones who love us are the ones we can trust to forgive the cruel outbursts. It is very hard to write fully about this play without spoiling the developing story line and impact for those who have not yet seen it. 

Do read the theatre’s guidelines as the night I saw it there was an unscheduled break while someone was taken ill and an inevitable few minutes pause in momentum.  The only health professional seen is a cheery midwife trying to make the best of a tragic situation. 

Jeremy Herrin is of course a very experienced director and Grace Smart as the designer has given us several realistic sets in the scanning room, in the hospital, in their home and other places.  All sets are well thought out including one in the couple’s bathroom at home. I’m not sure you would “enjoy” this play but I am sure you will be struck by the exquisite performances from the actors playing HIM and HER.  I can still hear Rosie Sheehy, such a wonderful actor in Machinal, howl with emotional trauma in the maternity ward. This season’s programme at the Royal Court from David Byrne is exciting, fresh and full of promise when so much else in London has been seen before.

Rosie Sheehy as Her and Robert Aramayo as Him (Photo: Johan Persson)

Production Notes

Guess How Much I Love You?

Written by Luke Norris

Directed by Jeremy Herrin

Cast

Starring:

Lena Kaur

Rosie Sheehy

Robert Aramayo

Creatives

Director: Jeremy Herrin

Set Designer: Grace Smart

Costume Designer: Lucy Walshaw

Lighting Designer: Jessica Hung Han Yune

Sound Designer: Nick Powell

Intimacy director: Clare Foster

Music: Nick Powell

Information

Running Time: One hour 35 minutes without an interval

Booking to 21st February 2026

Theatre: 

Jerwood Theatre Downstairs

Royal Court Theatre

Sloane Square

London SW1W 4AS

Phone: 020 7565 5000

Website: royalcourttheatre.com

Tube: Sloane Square

Reviewed

by Lizzie Loveridge

at the Royal Court on  23rd January 2026